“The worst thing you could do as a mentor is to promise to show up and then not,” says Dr. John Sowers, President of The Mentoring Project. One of the most vital attributes of a mentor is their availability, because so often the father figures in their lives are either absent, transient or unreliable. “Don’t mentor, at least in a one on one setting, unless you’re pretty sure you can be around once a week.” The most effective mentoring relationships last for at least two or three years, because it takes time to develop a strong, lasting friendship. “That’s what mentoring is: it’s being a friend.”
From The Justice Conference 2012.